We learn many aspects in life through going to school,experiencing, handling issues by ourselves and observing deeds done by fellow folks. No parent,guardian nor government would wish their children not to be part and parcel of learning.However some of the knowledge acquired in life need to be properly guarded,elaborated and used with a high degree of decisiveness lest we subject ourselves to regret,psychological torture and social misfit. My attention has been drawn to this pronoun I which all of us use in our daily activities.It is a one letter word that can be likened to Oxygen gas in the life of human beings.As the norm predicts most of us pay less attention to things,words and situations that seem too normal to question.This reason has made it difficult for most us to be cautious with excessive usage of some common words.
The word I has silently caused many negative effects to the human cycle of life, leading to a high degree of social intolerance and non-quantifiable conflicts in the society.No one is to be fully blamed about this slow poison that needs to be treated with the most counteractive drug called selflessness instead we should take collective responsibility over the same.Take a common example of a six year old child who schools in a primary school where pupils are allowed o carry packed food for their tea break or lunch.When you ask the child to share the food with you the answer you are likely to get is "I was told not to give anyone my food" This means that the child clearly identifies the food as his or hers because it was meant for him or her alone as described by the provider.You may also hear most children both at school and home stating "Mimi niliambiwa na mama yangu nisiende kwa kina Enock" "Mimi nimekula chapo na nyama" "Baba yangu alisema mimi na brother yangu tutaenda town kesho kununua nguo ya christmas" Such are words that seem so normal to us but in reality if not properly evaluated might end up inculcating seeds of ego-centrism and meanness in our generations to come.There is no crime in a child using the word I repeatedly but there is a creeping disaster if a child would not be properly taught that the world is not made up of the word I alone but also with words like we,us,you and them. Most of the negative perceptions might come along among the child's peer because despite their young age you may hear them say words such as "Shiko ni mchoyo hata hawezi kusaidia rubber"
Among the youths the word I has led to many break ups in relationships, made people lose jobs and even some committing suicide.How can you expect a romantic relationship to last if both parties are drank with the word I in their brains? "I do not like seeing you in yellow shirts" "I do not like seeing you talking to Steve" "I am not your servant, serve yourself food" Such are words come
from lovers or married people and without noticing their effects ,they persistently use them only to realize when it is too late how their romantic affair has tumbled down due to excessive self-cent redness. It is true that no one has a right to force anything over anyone but we have to be careful enough to avoid making others feel that we are too much into ourselves regardless of whether we are right or wrong.What a person hears makes him or her develop an attitude towards the speaker and this may lead to some of us being perceived proud and arrogant due to our excessive usage of the word I. Some people commit suicide because they are too much selfish,they don't want to share their problems with others because they think they are too special not to tell others their problem,they pursue tough courses alone due to their I syndrome and when they fail to attain their goals they become frustrated and decide to terminate their lives.
Arrogance and pride cannot be separated from the word I hence we need to avoid being too much of ourselves and acknowledge the fact that despite the word I being important in self realization and actualization it can make us lose much in terms of friends and prosperity.If we all embrace the usage of words like we and us then our lives will be full of corporate happiness which is much more useful than individual happiness which is at times faked.No one is an island and let us always remember that words spoken repeatedly become actions and actions done repeatedly become character.
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